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"I met the adoptive family at the first meeting. After the birth we stayed in touch with visits, phone calls and email. When my grandson was about two years old, his adoptive mom and I agreed that the relationship just felt like a friendship, so why not treat it like a valued friendship? So we do."

OA&FS Birth Grandmother

"We liked OA&FS' program because it gave us (me and the birthmother) a way to be a part of our son’s life. If it hadn't included that option we wouldn't have chosen adoption. We wanted to see him grow up. We wanted him to know us & Mitchell (my son) knows I love him; he would be hurt if I wasn't there. The adoptive parents would be disappointed if I wasn't part of his life. They've laid the groundwork by letting him know where he came from. I followed through by being involved. That makes them happy because Mitchell is happy."

Cody, Birthdad

Birth grandparents can play an integral and meaningful role in the open adoption relationship and the adoption planning process. However, birth grandparents can find themselves in a difficult position: wanting to support their child to make a decision they feel good about; while at the same time experiencing strong feelings about the choices their child is facing. Whatever choice birthparents make, the birth grandparents are very much affected.

Open Adoption and Family Services extends counseling and support to birth grandparents. Counselors can give you a safe place to process your feelings, so that you can be present to give your child positive and unconditional support.

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