Join our new affinity group for adult adoptees
Connect around the shared experience of growing up in an open adoption. Meetings held on the fourth Wednesday of each month, from 6 to 8 pm.
Resources for Expectant Parents and Adoptive Families
We offer free, unbiased counseling to people as they consider each of their pregnancy options: parenting, abortion, or adoption. We assist them in connecting to trusted resources and providers for the path they choose. When their choice is adoption, we facilitate fully open adoptions and provide post-placement counseling.
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Are you pregnant or parenting? Or is your partner, or someone close to you, pregnant or parenting? Learn more about the support we can provide. We’re honored to offer our services to people throughout the United States. If you live in the Northwest and would like to meet in person we have offices in Portland and Eugene, Oregon and Seattle, Washington or we’ll come to you. Or, connect with a call, text or fill out our online inquiry form. (OA&FS can place children in adoption up to the age of three and one-half.)
If you're pregnant and would like to explore your options:
Call 1-800-772-1115 or Text 503-300-6130. Counselors are available 7 am-9 pm PST seven days a week to listen and provide you with a compassionate, non-judgmental space to talk about your thoughts and feelings. You’ll be treated with dignity and respect as you explore all of your options.
If you're a prospective adoptive parent:
Our Client Services Manager is here to help you Monday thru Friday, 9 am-5 pm PST. She can answer your specific questions and also sign you up for our free Adoption Information Meeting or Adoptive Parent Seminar!
Contact our offices:
5200 S Macadam Suite 250, Portland, OR 97239 503-226-4870
150 Shelton McMurphey Blvd, Suite 204, Eugene, OR 97401 541-343-4825
2815 Eastlake Ave. E., Suite 160 Seattle, WA 98102 206-782-0442
OA&FS Statement Regarding Supreme Court Decision to Overturn Roe v. Wade
Because pregnant people’s options are now more limited due to the overturning of Roe v. Wade, access to unbiased all-options pregnancy counseling is critical. Providing this service is central to OA&FS’ mission. We will continue assisting people in making informed decisions about their pregnancy and accessing the resources they need for whichever pregnancy decision they make: abortion, parenting, or adoption.
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Birth Parents Share Their Open Adoption Experiences
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My Story: Open Adoption
The very first time I dialed the number for Open Adoption & Family Services, I was sitting on the steps outside the public library.
I was 18 years old, six months pregnant and beyond scared. I had kept my pregnancy a secret from my family up until this point and now I had less than three months to make the biggest decision of my life.
My first call with the agency is a little fuzzy in my mind. I had so much adrenaline, so many nerves that I don’t really remember what I asked. I do remember a really kind voice on the other end of the phone telling me that no matter what I chose, there were people and resources to help me through it. They could help me find the right resources to parent on my own, or help me figure out what an open adoption would look like for me. While I never discussed abortion options with my adoption counselor because of how far along my pregnancy was, I know that they provide education and resources for that option as well. (All three options are valid, and there is absolutely no shame in considering each one.)
My family stood by me throughout my process, despite the chaos I had caused. The decision was mine to make, and I wanted to be informed.
No one at the agency ever tried to sway me one way or another. It was very clear that they were there to give me my options, not to tell me what my next move should be. In the end, I had to separate my needs from my child’s needs. Which decisions were I making with fear? Which decisions were I making with love? There is no one that can decide that for you. After a few weeks of living in the decision process, I realized that my job as a mother was to give my son the absolute best childhood I could give him, and that meant moving forward with open adoption. My adoption counselor gave me a book of letters from potential families. I was to read through them and let her know if there was anyone I was potentially interested in.
I was incredibly lucky with my open adoption journey. When I found August’s parents, I knew immediately that they were the ones. They walked into the room and I thought, “Oh, there you are. You are the ones that will love him as much as I do.” It didn’t make my choice any easier, but it made me certain that I was making the right one. We went through the last two or so months of my pregnancy together. I visited their home and saw the beautiful nursery my son would grow up in. They framed pictures of me and placed them around his crib so that he could see my face each day. Every moment I spent with them was a reminder of how magical and beautiful our son’s childhood would be.
August is nearly 7 years old now and is, unquestionably, the most amazing person I’ve ever known. Matthew and Eric have raised him to be kind, curious, adventurous, hilarious, compassionate and just a little bit sassy (although that might be genetics). There hasn’t been a moment in these past seven years that I haven’t thought about him. It took the better part of that time for me to truly allow myself to be happy again. There is so much shame and secrecy around adoption in our culture. I didn’t know that I was allowed to be happy or even proud of my choice, but what’s not to be proud of? I gave my son the childhood he deserves, and I get to be there to watch him live it. He will always know how much I love him, and I will always be there to answer any questions he may have.
When I chose Matthew and Eric as August’s parents, I knew that they would be the right fit for him. I never imagined they would also be such a perfect fit for me. In each of them I have gained a partner in crime, a confidant, a co-parent, a shoulder to cry on and a lifelong friend. We made the decision to become a family because it was the best thing for August, but in the end it turned out to be the best thing for all of us. There are some people that are meant to come into your life one way or another, and I wouldn’t trade this experience or these people for anything in the world. They always find a way to make me a part of the little moments, no matter how far apart we are. Every year we grow closer as a family, and I am forever indebted to them for the constant love and support they have provided both my son and myself. If I had to do it all over again, I wouldn’t have it any other way.
All mothers have their own unique journey, and all people have the right to make the decision that is best for them. Organizations such as Open Adoption & Family Services can help you understand your options. In the end, you have to put in real work to decide what’s best for you. Do your research, talk to someone, be honest with yourself and be kind to yourself. This is not a road you are walking alone, and there is nothing shameful about this journey.
— Taylor Redwine, Young Author. Taylor lives in Oregon, loves to read and is currently training for her third half marathon. As published in The Rational Enquirer.
Open adoption is a way to provide your child with the best life they can have and still be in their life. It dispels these fears of “Oh, my parents didn’t want me and they didn’t love me” because your birthparents are there and you know they love you. They made this decision because they love you. It gives this opportunity to grow as a person and to live a really full, rich life. It’s just amazing.
Open Adoptees Speak Out
The first open adoptees are now young adults. We’ve amplified their voices in these exclusive videos as they share how meaningful their open adoption experiences have been. They lead the way for new generations to thrive.
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Our Adoptive Families Want to Build a Genuine Relationship With You
As adoptive parents, we will strive to be gracious, genuine and offer a welcoming heart to our child’s birth parents. We are committed to keeping our hearts and minds open as we grow in this new experience with our child’s birth family. Read more …
I will support our child in their endeavors and help them find and follow their path. I hope to be chosen by a birth family that wants to show our kiddo a love for learning, exploring and the fulfillment that comes from perseverance. Read more …
We have been a couple since we were 14. We never run out of things to talk about even though we've been together for a jillion years. We are patient with each other and our loved ones, and believe in letting people be their authentic selves. Read more …
We are choosing to expand our family through adoption because we feel that our family has a lot of love to share. We have a strong foundation and see open adoption as a preferred choice to expand our network of family and love. Read more …
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