Miles and Davis



Thank you for reading our letter. We are Miles and Davis, and our daughter Cosima. We first met in 2009 in Oregon and became friends working on a film project. We stayed in touch over the years while Davis stayed in Portland and Miles lived in Chicago, Los Angeles, New York, and Ashland.

We’re a great team, and we share many values and interests. When our relationship grew from friendship into something more, we immediately clicked into a new rhythm. We both love family and friends, to garden and to cook — we love to make dishes inspired by local northwest produce, to bake cookies and cakes, and to throw big dinner parties — hiking, camping, yoga, working together to tackle projects and accomplish goals, and enjoying music — we love listening to jazz, and folk, and hip hop, and love to make music together as well: Miles plays the saxophone and piano and Davis sings, and there are many other musicians in the extended family, so often our gatherings turn into big jam sessions. Starting a family has been everything that we dreamed of and more; we welcomed Cosima into our lives in 2020 through open adoption. Being part of the open adoption community has given our lives new meaning and purpose.

We both come from very close families. Our parents on both sides are married, and we are each very close with our siblings and their partners. Miles grew up in Oregon, his parents having settled there after finishing school on the East Coast. Davis grew up in Northern California where his family, a big, fun, rowdy group, still lives. Both of our families share similar values. We are people who believe in the power of love, encourage one another to pursue dreams, and hope to fill the world with joy and kindness.

We love living in Oregon and our home in Portland. Davis owns a photo and video studio; he loves his team and the global community they get to work with. Miles is in his final year of medical school, planning to pursue a career as a family physician, and is connected to a diverse group of people in education, healthcare, and community groups. Our friendships and family represent the richest and most fulfilling parts of our lives. Now that our parenthood journey has begun, we cannot wait for our family to keep growing and to create a sibling bond for our children like we hold so close with our own sisters.

Continuing to build our family through open adoption will create the family we dream of – fun, diverse, and kind. We both grew up with large families built from a mix of all types of people, blood relatives, adopted relatives, and close friends collected along the way. Family is what you make of it, and we are guided by that intention as we grow our family with amazing new people through open adoption. We look forward to including our child’s birth family into our lives; working collaboratively to create harmonious shared energy that honors and respects the child and provides them with robust support, love, and positivity as they make their journey through the world.

Thanks for taking the time to read about us. We send love and support for whatever path you choose, for now and in the future. If you feel a connection, we’d love to get to know you better.

With very best wishes, Davis & Miles (& Cosima)

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