Tom and Jocelyn


Hello, we are Tom and Jocelyn- thank you for taking the time to learn a little bit about us.

We met in 2002 at Portland State University when Tom wandered into a meeting of the student group where Jocelyn was a coordinator. We discovered we were both from Montana and bonded over our love for the Big Sky State, outdoor adventures, science fiction, and community action. Six years and many backpacking trips, marches, and impassioned conversations later, we were married at Boulder Hot Springs near our hometowns. Our wedding included the vow to help each other fulfill our goals and dreams, and a responsive reading where our friends and family committed to walking alongside us through the joys and challenges of building a life together. The ceremony was followed by a feast of local food, a bluegrass band, and a rollicking square dance!

Since 2008, we’ve made our home on a quarter-acre with our cat Asha, five chickens, and one beehive. We grow a big garden and have planted six fruit trees (literally putting down roots!). Our neighborhood is one of the most diverse in Portland, and a place where our child will be able to get to know people of many races, ages, and socioeconomic backgrounds. It has many large lots and quiet streets like ours, giving it a kind of “country in the city” feel. It’s close-in enough that we can do most of our daily activities by bike or on foot, while enjoying urban opportunities like restaurants, theater, music, and parks.

Tom works as a software engineer for an educational technology company where he gets to combine his love of technology with his passion for education. He grew up working on his family’s cattle ranch and learning to appreciate all that the natural world has to offer through hunting, fishing, and skiing. He still enjoys the great outdoors, including bringing home food for the table, as well as playing guitar in his rock band. Jocelyn has applied her degrees in community development and nonprofit management through projects like helping start a kitchen tool lending library, and involvement in many groups working toward a world where everyone can thrive. She makes pottery and selects a poem a month for neighbors to read on the street-side “poetry-post” that Tom built for her birthday. Together we can often be found in the woods, climbing at the rock gym, taking a neighborhood walk, exploring a new city, or working in our garden (with experiments like growing a giant pumpkin!) We hope to give our child the opportunities we have been blessed with to appreciate nature, explore their world through travel, expand their mind through education, and experience the simple pleasure of biting into a homegrown tomato straight off the vine.

Family is very important to us, and we have a big, inclusive sense of what family means. Many of our relatives still live in Montana and we visit often. They’ve been our strongest supporters in our path to parenthood and will continue to be as we expand our family to include a child and their birth family through open adoption. We believe in the adage, “it takes a village to raise a child.” The more people a child has in their life who love and want the best for them, the more opportunity they’ll have to grow into their full potential. It’s also about the support it takes to be as successful as possible in this important job of parenting. We look forward to an even larger village that includes our child’s birth family and the broader Open Adoption community, along with our current network of beloveds.

Wishing you all the best in your journey,

Jocelyn & Tom

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