Nathan and Derek


Hello! We are Nathan and Derek with our son Duncan in Seattle.

Thank you for reading our letter. We hope it gives you a sense of who we are. We welcomed Duncan into our family through open adoption in the summer of 2017. Now we are ready to grow our family again and to share laughter, joy, and love with a second child.

We both grew up in the Washington, D.C. area, but we met through a mutual friend in Seattle in 2011 when Nathan was visiting from Madison. Nathan was just starting his PhD program at the University of Wisconsin. Every month over the next two years, we traveled to visit each other and talked every day over Skype. Thus, our relationship began with a high level of trust and great communication, which we carry forward to now. In 2013, Nathan moved to Seattle where we both work as software developers. We married a year later. In August 2017, Duncan entered into our lives. We are so honored that Duncan’s birthmother, Julia, chose us to be the parents of her child.

Nathan is warm, spontaneous, and always able to get Duncan into a fit of laughter. He is a natural at soothing Duncan when he is upset. He enjoys cooking delicious and healthy dinners for us. Derek is a great coordinator, keeps the family organized, and fills the family calendar with fun activities like baby swim classes, play dates, and dinners with friends. He speaks multiple languages and talks to Duncan in French and Cantonese. When Derek plays the piano, Duncan loves to sit on his lap, dance to the music with Nathan, or just watch and listen. We both enjoy reading books and singing to Duncan. As our children grow older, we look forward to introducing them to some of our other interests: Nathan loves performing in community theatre and Derek loves flying planes as a licensed pilot.

We love being parents. Duncan has enriched our lives in ways we never imagined. We both are grateful for the positive impact our brothers had on our lives and we want Duncan to have that special bond with a sibling too. Duncan will be an outstanding big brother. He is cheerful, outgoing, and loves to be with other children. At our recent family reunion, Duncan felt the warmth and love from his large extended family who had gathered from across the country. We want to share that love with a second child.

We will give our children the best opportunities we can: a great education, a multicultural experience, and a strong connection to their birth families. We promise to give unconditional love and to instill a strong moral compass. We welcome open and warm communication with our children’s birth families because we believe a child can never have too much love. Thank you for reading our letter. We wish you the best!

With warmth and love,

Derek & Nathan

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