Dassance and Reed


We are Dassance, Reed and Odin and we live outside Portland, in Washington State. We are a happy and loving little family of three, and we look forward to someday welcoming a fourth who will make our family complete.

We (Dassance and Reed) met in a coffee shop in San Francisco, went on one date and knew straight away that we were going to be together. We married two years later and were excited to start a family immediately. After three years of frustration and sadness, we let go of our hopes of having a biologically related family and set our sights on building a family through adoption. That decision has been the best one we have ever made because it brought us Odin. Being Odin’s parents is so much more brilliant and joyous than we could have possibly imagined. He is the light of our lives and the butter on our toast. Odin has solidified our belief in open adoption and we are all just so excited for a new child to join our family.

But who are we, you ask!? Dassance is from Ithaca, NY. After studying theatre in Ithaca and London, she spent nine years in New York City, working as a stage manager and in the restaurant industry. She now works remotely in nonprofit administration for an environmental organization. She is thoughtful, conscientious, uber-organized, artistic, often kooky, and a lover of British mysteries. Reed grew up in Sonoma County, CA, and spent a lot of time abroad in France, India, Madagascar and Japan. He loves learning, is a musician and artist, a game designer and developer, a D&D Dungeon Master, a talented builder and craftsman, a web designer for work, and a wealth of information and random facts. And last but never least – Odin! Odin is a powerhouse of a tiny human with a personality that stops strangers in their tracks, a lover of music, singing and composing, a fire truck enthusiast, a truly gentle and compassionate soul, a three year old who proactively shares his last cookie, a total goofball and a loving snugglepuss.

The three of us have an amazing time together. Locally we like to explore the beautiful nature near our home, visit museums and explore downtown Portland, and experience everything this area has to offer. We’re also homebodies and enjoy our nights in, cuddling by the fire, reading books or playing games, working and playing outside in the garden, doing a lot of cooking and trying new foods (we do ‘foreign Friday’ meals often to learn about other cultures). We strive for a good balance between exploration of the world beyond our doorstep, and quiet times at home.

This is the ‘second time around’ for us, it’s true, but this feels just as exciting and monumental a step as it did the first time. Now that we are an adoptive family we truly value what openness means and how it really is in the best interest of all involved, and we are ready and excited to open our hearts to another birth family.

So… that’s us in a few short paragraphs. The biggest thing to know is that we are so excited to be parents again, and Odin is so excited to be a big brother. We are ready for this journey, with eyes and arms wide open, ready to come together with a new family in love for that little one whom none of us have yet to meet, but who will change all our lives forever.

With love,
Dassance, Reed and Odin