Caroline and Sheila



Thank you for reading our letter. We are Caroline (redhead), Sheila, and Nico! We became adoptive parents in 2017 and hope to grow our family through open adoption once more!

We met online in Boulder, Colorado, and realized we had mutual friends. Our fast friendship became a serious romance and after moving to Portland, Oregon in 2005, we got married the next year (our legal wedding had to wait until 2013). Dealing with health issues, losses of friends and family, and infertility has made our relationship stronger over the years, and it’s helped us make peace with the unknown–essential for adoption and parenthood.

Sheila is creative (she’s working on a novel), funny, and curious. She’s a problem solver and genius researcher, which comes in handy with cooking, editing, and house projects. She’s a massage therapist in private practice (over 10 years) and taught at massage school. She loves biking to work and making up songs, from lullabies to clean-up songs.

Caroline is warm, loving, and a joy to be around! She comes up with lots of ideas, from pie-in-the-sky possibilities to first-things-first. She takes great care of herself, exercising regularly and eating what nourishes her body. She loves to play with Sheila and Nico–dancing, singing, and just plain being silly. She’s a mental health therapist in private practice and is working on a side business so we can spend more time together.

We’ve organized our schedules so we each have time at home with Nico and get to share family dinners more often than not. On the weekend we usually go to church and spend time with friends, family, or chosen family; we may hike in Forest Park, visit the zoo, go to a happy hour, or do an overnight at the coast. We’ve been spending Christmas with Sheila’s family in Alaska the last few years and taking a beach vacation with Caroline’s in the summer.

Nico is an easy-going kid who gets excited about the little things, just like his Mama Caroline. He loves to sing and play music like his Mommy Sheila. We love him to pieces and can’t wait to bring a little sibling into his life. We are lucky to be in touch with his birth mom and have shared special moments like Nico’s adoption finalization, first birthday, and Thanksgiving dinner! Seeing their shared traits and interest in each other is amazing, and we think he’ll grow up more secure in who he is. We hope that our future open adoption will include that same connection with birth family, to where we become extended family. This may not be simple or easy, but we value the richness and complexity it brings. When love is shared, it multiplies!

We love our open adoption and know it’s the best choice for our family. We wish you the best on your journey!
Sheila, Caroline, and Nico

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