Adoption Stereotypes

All of these issues can impact how we view the adoption choice. Some adoption value judgments may strike a familiar chord:

Adoption is abandonment of the child.: Adoption is another way of providing for a child.
Adoption is the right solution.: There is no right solution--only one that is well thought out and is the most workable for now and the future.
Keeping the baby is selfish.: Very few humans have a lack of regard for their offspring. Keeping a baby is one of the most natural acts regardless of the parental age. Selfishness is not the issue.
Relinquishing the baby is unselfish.: It may be, but birthparents must see something for themselves in the decision, even if it is simply regaining their freedom.
A relinquishing mother does not want the baby.: Adoption professionals will say consistently that they have met few, if any, birthparents who did not want their baby/babies.
Adoption would be so perfect for the baby.: There are inherent losses in adoption for all, including adoptees. They lose the privilege of being raised by their genetic parents.
So many couples can't have babies; it isn't fair to keep a child when you are a teenager.: Infertility does not entitle a couple to adopt another person's child. When working with pregnant teens in the decision-making process, the needs of infertile couples are not your concern.
The father doesn't care about the girl or his child.: Young birthfathers are often very confused about their role. They show evidence of being concerned and responsible when given opportunities for counseling and support.

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