Trey
Dear Birthparent(s),
My name is Trey and it is with great respect that I write this letter to you. I can only imagine what you must be going through at this time. After deciding to pursue an open adoption, I’ve thought about what to say to you over and over; the people whom I’ve never met but may give me the gift of raising the most important person in our lives. I am truly humbled by your consideration.
My story begins in a small, rural southern town, the youngest of three boys. Both of my parents worked long hours at local factories and were dedicated to providing for their family. I attended our town’s public schools and my high school graduating class had a whopping 32 graduates! Needless to say, we knew each other well, some might say too well, but it was a great environment to grow up in.
I’ve always known I wanted to be a parent. Even when I was struggling through graduate school, I knew I was doing this for my future family. I wanted to be able to shower my child with love and affection and provide her or him with opportunities. I grew up very poor and remember many times my mom and dad struggling from paycheck to paycheck. Fortunately, I am now able to provide not only a loving environment but also worldly opportunities such as travel to experience different cultures.
Some of the things I like to do in my spare time include running, travel, watching movies, riding my mountain bike, eating cupcakes, and playing with my cat, Maggie. I try to run at least one marathon a year because it helps me stay in shape after eating all those cupcakes! My favorite travel destinations include Australia, New York City, Scotland, Paris, Maui, and Ireland. Also, I work from home and have a flexible schedule that will allow quality time for parenting. I truly enjoy my job and have a supportive manager and business colleagues, many of whom I consider friends.
I know I will face challenges raising my child but I have more than enough love and support from family and friends. My plan is to work part-time until he or she begins pre-school and to hire a part-time nanny. I assure you I plan on being a hand’s on dad and the nanny’s primary responsibility will be to take care of household duties. Also, I think open adoption is particularly suited for my situation because of the maternal and paternal contact that may be maintained between parent and child. I want our child to know that they are loved by many adults.
Please know that I feel such a privilege to have the opportunity to be your child’s father and a deep respect for your situation. Rest assure that I believe in the importance of unconditional love, providing a stable home, giving our child opportunities that will positively shape his or her life, offering guidance to grow into a healthy and happy adult, supporting their life’s ambitions and goals, and instilling in them integrity and self-confidence.
It is my hope that this letter has given you the trust and confidence to bestow the greatest gift I could ever receive; the gift of raising your child. I look forward to sharing this journey with you.
Thank you so much for your consideration.
Sincerely,
Trey
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